Affected: Go: github.com/envoyproxy/gateway

### Impact Envoy Gateway accepts extension-managed custom backendRefs from an HTTPRoute to a backend resource in another namespace without requiring a matching Gateway API ReferenceGrant in the target namespace. This breaks the Gateway API cross-namespace consent model: the namespace that owns the referenced backend resource does not need to opt in with a ReferenceGrant before another namespace’s HTTPRoute can use that resource.

### Patches [1.7.4](https://github.com/envoyproxy/gateway/releases/tag/v1.7.4) [1.8.1](https://github.com/envoyproxy/gateway/releases/tag/v1.8.1)